A Picture is Worth 1,000 Words

Dec 23, 2016 by

Long time no write! Lol. I think I can speak for myself AND Shari when I say that it has been one heckuva year. Anybody else ready to blow this Popsicle stand called 2016?! But, alas! I digress. It’s been a while since we’ve written. I thought I’d give you all a lil something something to indulge in during your vacations. It IS that time of year, right? 😉 Anyway, as some of you may or may not know, I have tried MOST of the dating sites that you can think of; from Black People Meet to Christian Mingle and everything in between! I never had any success, but I attributed that to my lack of true effort. So…I decided to have a go at it and sincerely put in a little work. After...

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Why Can’t We Talk About It?...

Aug 23, 2016 by

Today’s guest found us thanks to a shout-out from our friend KevOnStage on one of his YouTube videos. She is an optimistic divorcee who shares a similar goal with us of helping and encouraging those who have experienced/are experiencing divorce. She is also author of the book, Where Do I Go From Here? Redefining Yourself After Heartbreak And Brokenness, which we are excited about reviewing soon! Please read on and be inspired!! I’m aggravated, frustrated and downright pissed off. My mood changes as quickly as the flicker of a light switch. One minute I am excited about my future and the next minute I am paralyzed with fear because of my past. Some nights I wet my pillow with tears as I battle with conflicting thoughts; Am I really happy in my current state?...

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I’M TEETERING!!!!!!!!!!

Aug 17, 2016 by

Funny story, to me at least, lol. At the church where I grew up, from my teens to young adult years, we would (and they still do) have a huge annual Christmas concert. I mean it was (is) a big deal. We would get new robes with doves or overlays with praying hands or blouses with fancy ruffles. We’d prepare special music, have guest soloists/groups/choirs/musicians/directors, have special marches, and even have funky choir choreography, lol! And every single year, like the last week, up until the day of the concert, our choir director would be on edge! Choir rehearsal was tense. He was not there for the talking, playing, or any other distraction or imperfection during rehearsal. When he was REALLY fed up, he’d start rubbing his head and then he would explode and...

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He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

Apr 6, 2016 by

Today’s guest blogger is one of our most dedicated followers from our Periscope family. Even though we’ve been MIA on that outlet as of late, Chloe has remained supportive. We are so honored to have her as a guest blogger today! We are sure that you will be inspired by her story.  Read on!   He loves me. I’ve never really told my whole story, but here it is in 12 words: Engaged at 22. Married at 23. Separated by 24. Divorced by 25. Like, didn’t I JUST get married? I know I did. I was there. I had on the white dress. My dad cried. My friends danced. I got a deep fryer for goodness sake! There was cake and pictures too! However, today on my 31st birthday, almost 10 years after meeting...

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Did You Ever…?

Apr 4, 2016 by

I asked him. After all of these years, I asked him because I’ve just really always wanted to know. Not because I want him back, not because I’m dwelling in the past, not because I’m bitter, I just needed to know. I mean, I was pretty sure that I knew the answer anyway, but I needed to hear it straight from the horse’s mouth. I’ve had conversations about it and have given my thoughts on it and I was certain that his answer would reiterate what I had known for several years. For some reason, in the last week or so, it was a question that remained at the forefront of my thoughts. I went back and forth. Should I ask? Maybe I shouldn’t say anything. Ok, I’m going to ask so I don’t...

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Love Has No Color

Feb 12, 2016 by

On Monday, February 8th, The Optimistic Divorcees celebrated 2 years! To honor this accomplishment, on our social media, we highlighted a few of our guest bloggers who we’ve been honored to feature over the last two years. (Check out blog posts from our first guest, our youngest guest, and our most viewed guest!) Today we feature a new post from another guest blogger. We met DeNee through our friends Kevin and Melissa Fredericks and we soon found out that DeNee had an awesome story to share of her journey on Heartbreak Highway to her new destination of Sweet Love Lane! (Hey it’s Valentine’s Day Weekend, I had to add a little sappy corniness, lol) Read on and be inspired by this optimistic divorcee’s story. I dated my ex in high school and we reconnected...

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The Pursuit of Shari-ness

Jan 27, 2016 by

A couple of years ago I proclaimed that year was going to be the “Year of the Boo”. Go ahead, laugh! I don’t care! I was serious! I was ready for the pursuit! I made up in my mind that I was going to be – you guessed it – optimistic, and declared that love would come into my life. That was 2014. Last year, I purposed to be more proactive in hanging out over the summer. I mean, you can’t meet anyone by staying home, right? So I went to day parties and picnics and concerts and rooftop restaurants. One thing I found, though, was that most men didn’t seem to want to make any effort – no effort to say hello, strike up convo, buy a girl a drink – nothing. They stood in...

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